Too-much Toosday

Seems like a lot is happening these few days, not all good. Yesterday, Tuesday, was full. First the good news, Matti did his last Bagrut exam, last ever in his life. He is free to conquer the world, and I am sure he will. Ahron also had a Bagrut exam, but he has two years to go before relaxing.
Ok that was the easy part.
Racheli phoned me yesterday to ask me to call Chana who needed to speak. I got hold of her easily, she was crying. Apparently Naftali had been allowed a one minute phone call, and he managed to tell her that he had not passed the physical (specifically the running speed) part of boot camp, and so could not proceed with the studies, bursaries and everything else they had dreamt of. So all their expectations have crashed and Chana can't even get hold of Naftali to discuss the situation and deal with it. At least he will be coming home, small comfort. But then what?
I phoned Saba 'stum', and he was going through a major crisis with Elsie (his Philipine caregiver). She was trying to get him ready for Shul - Mincha - and he insisted that it was Yom Kipur and he had to wear sports shoes. Of course if Elsie did let him wear them, Adina would be furious. There was a lot of screaming and frustration.
The day before (Monday), Tamar and Menachem and Debbi and I met to formulate some sort of ideas about Aba. The good part is that we are all on the same wavelength. Keep Aba out of a hospital, keep him at home as long as possible, retain Adina's sanity. The hard part is the how, when Adina has different ideas to us and communication is not exactly flowing. She wants us to take Aba to our homes every few weeks, we think she won't last those few weeks and that Saba should stay in his home while Adina gets a break. She doesn't get why the grandchildren don't come regularly, but all the kids have families and commitments of their own. She is tired, we understand.
Then I called Dvora and discovered that she was really upset, her in-laws are very seriously considering (or have decided) to go to Singapore for 5 years. They were the real Zionists... you don't live anywhere but Israel, so this is stunning news. Actually, as a mother in-law I would think it very flattering that my daughter in law is distressed at my leaving!